March 6th, 2010 8:34 AM by Lehel S.
Are Your Goals Accompanied with a Consistent Labor of Love?
By Joan Marie Whelan ------------------------------------------------------------What actions have you determined are necessities in your life to keep you on track? If you're pining for the straight and narrow path to success, then you must know that in order to achieve the affluence you so desire, you must love yourself first and be consistent in every one of your efforts. A few questions you must ask yourself are: 1. What is it that I really want in life? 2. How am I going to acquire these wants? 3. How much passion am I going to put behind my goals? 4. What steps do I need to take in order to achieve these goals? 5. How much time am I willing to take to get the things I want?After you've considered these questions, I want you to take out a pen and paper, your laptop keyboard, or whatever else you have at your disposal and begin to jot down ideas and thoughts resolving these questions.Sometimes, we have to make small sacrifices to create a clear passage to the lives we want to lead. While we might like owning that high-maintenance SUV; the payments might be killing us financially. Or, we've put several years' time into a work position only to stay in the same spot. Are you staying in a negative personal relationship because you've become accustomed to arguing? Have you seen the writing on the wall? That doesn't mean you should allow your vehicle to get repossessed, that you should walk out of your relationship, or just outright quit your job because you're not going anywhere. What it does mean is that you need to re-evaluate your state of affairs, and start using the tools that are available to you to make the best out of a lagging or negative situation. You are, after all, in control of your emotions and your actions. And if you are not--Why not? You cannot control the people around you. But you can control yourself...or better said, you can become the leader of your life--if that is your choice!That being said, you must determine the necessary actions and efforts to keep your life on track. For example, if you are in a "terrible job", you need to ask yourself if it is in fact the job that is terrible, or is it the feelings that you associate with the job that give it the appearance of being terrible. When you figure that out, that's when you can decide what path you need to take in order to acquire a better position...or perhaps, become an entrepreneur in your own field to create real value in your life. The same holds true in relationships -- both personal and professional. Relationships, just like working positions, take time, sacrifice, effort, labor, love, and communication skills. What are you doing in your life to heighten your potential and efficacy in creating and sustaining healthy bonds? And this is also spot on with professional relationships -- how do you view the work you do? Would you "hire you" again? Would you want "you" working for yourself? Think about it. Are you creating your own problems at work?Beyond work and personal relationships, finances (or lack thereof) often take center stage on the emotional baggage train. Do any of these hypothetical statements apply to you? * "I can't go to the gym because I can't afford it." * "I can't take a vacation because I don't have the money." * "I'd love to take you to that restaurant, but it's too expensive." * "How I wish I could buy a house, but times are tough." * "How can Jim (or fill in the blank) afford such a nice car?" * "I'd like to have children, but I can barely afford to pay my own bills." * "I'm just not lucky like that other guy."More than likely, we've all encountered one or more of the above situations. And when we are honest with ourselves--it's uncomfortable, too. Especially when someone asks you to accompany him (or her) and you begin concocting lame excuses as to why you can't go. And envy is even worse. No matter how successful we become in life, someone, somewhere is going to have something bigger, better, and more expensive than you. That's a fact. But, the good news is that you don't have to "keep up with the Jones." You just have to keep up with yourself -- that's it. Every action has an equal reaction. For instance, if you have made the active decision to pursue a higher position at work, what must you do to attain it? If you simply "want" the position, and do nothing to acquire it, then you will remain exactly where you are. Wanting something and doing something for that want are two entirely different means to an end: one is inaction (indecision) and the other is action (decision). How is your supervisor going to know that you want a particular position? She can't always read your mind. Likewise, if you've been performing "just enough" or "not enough" at work, do you really deserve the position?Do you have what it takes? Yes! Almost every individual has the mental, physical, emotional, and psychological capacity to achieve their hearts' desires; unfortunately, they don't always do it because of indecision, inaction, and complacency. We get comfortable in all of our relationships, much like we do in our own tennis shoes. We tend to overlook the holes, the wear and tear, the rips, the shredded laces...because they feel good on our feet. Eventually, our feet get soaked from the mud puddles that we sometimes have to walk through. Even track stars have to change shoes every now and then to maintain a proper balance and performance. Like it or not, we have to toss the old shoes and buy new ones that fit us and serve us better so that the paths on which we walk will benefit us. Which path do you choose to walk upon? What sacrifices are you willing to make to create forward motion? What choices are you making for you today to promise a wealthy and happy tomorrow?If you're still not sure how to stay focused and keep your life on track, but are willing to commit yourself to recharging your life and re-energizing your authentic self to become the person you want to be, then I invite you to participate in my upcoming Platinum Mastermind Group. In the group, I'll teach you how to be self-sustaining and self-empowering. And I'll show you how to use your intuition and sheer determination to transform your lifestyle into the extraordinary one that I know you can achieve.